The emotional impact of hysterectomy

For the majority of women, hysterectomy is elective surgery. However, it seldom feels that way. As our post bag testifies, in many cases from the moment a woman presents at the doctors’ surgery with a gynaecological disorder, she “feels as if she’s on a conveyor belt with little information, choice or support”. Post-operatively, after a few days in hospital, she is passed medically fit and discharged to contemplate how this piece of elective surgery may affect the rest of her life and her relationships.

Removal of the uterus may be undertaken for a number of medical reasons although it is only performed to save life in relatively few cases. Whatever the primary indication, hysterectomy may be accompanied by alterations in sexuality that may occur for a variety of biological and psychological reasons. For instance, some research has shown the important role that the cervix plays in the experience of orgasm. This organ is routinely removed during total hysterectomy in the UK even when it is healthy. In other instances the symptoms necessitating hysterectomy may have disturbed the closeness of the relationship to such an extent that the couple find resumption of intimacy difficult when the physical problem has disappeared.

For some women, however, sexual problems occurring after the operation may be a continuation or further evolution of previously existing difficulties. Some women, who may have experienced years of pain or discomfort through their condition, may be so negatively conditioned towards sexual activity that they abstain or avoid sexual activity post-operatively.

However, for many women, the opposite reaction occurs. Freed of the symptoms as a result of surgery, a woman may find her sexual responsiveness reawakened. With myriad different reactions possible, it is perhaps not surprising that post-operatively there is an increased incidence of depression when compared with the after effects of other major surgery.

The success of the operation then depends upon two things, each as important as the surgeon’s skill; the woman’s self esteem and the partners reaction.

Research has shown a crucial link between information giving and the perception of being cared for by health professionals. Women who present their bodies to medics without knowledge or understanding of the what, why and after effects, suffer considerably more post-operative complications than the woman who insists on knowing as much as possible and feels in control at all times [except whilst under the anaesthetic of course!] After all, a woman is the greatest expert in the world on herself.

The woman’s husband or sexual partner is the second most important factor in determining the success of surgery. Most men (and quite a few women) don’t understand the nature of the female anatomy or the functional results of hysterectomy, and may harbour many misconceptions regarding sexuality after the operation. If the man equates removal of the uterus with loss of libido or diminished femininity, he may inadvertently avoid sexual interaction with her. Men who appear indifferent to uterine removal, may actually feel anxious or guilty about subsequent sexual activity with their partner.

A hysterectomy can be seen as a unifying experience, one that the couple face together, talking and listening to each others needs, communicating their feelings as they change day by day.

With the right support network in place, which should include her partner as well as medical staff, there is no reason why a woman’s sexual function cannot improve following recuperation from the operation. If health-care professionals take the time that is necessary to assuage fears and doubts regarding such operations and provide a reasonable amount of factual information to both the woman and her sexual partner, few sexual difficulties will ensue postoperatively. However, whilst counselling is routine prior to sterilisation or vasectomy, no such norm exists for hysterectomies. As with all types of surgery that may have an impact on sexuality, such counselling ought to be a routine part of the care for a hysterectomy patient.

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66 thoughts on “The emotional impact of hysterectomy

  1. I had my hysterectomy July 3rd 2014: I was 52. 2 years and 5 months later I am crying from frustrations on my emotional hatefulness. I am so nasty I cant stand myself. This is not who I am and yet everything I read says it is!
    I enjoyed a healthy sex life. I liked feeling sexual and now I could care less. My anger is quick and lasting. It is very confusing.
    I keep asking doubting my need for surgery but am 99% positive it was a medical necessity: 12 years they tried to talk me into it and I said no! My personal Dr. told me i would know when it was the right time.
    As time goes on and I dont think there is a right time just a end result.
    I am sad beyond belief that at 54 this is what i have become. an angry women that treats the best man ever like crap. He deserves better . What do i do.

  2. I’m 40 I had a hysterectomy 6 years ago to this day I feel empty and I’m so blessed to have 2 beautiful sons I’ve spent 7 years single and since meeting an amazing man just over 2 years ago. I’m so broody I cry so often as I have this deep wanting for a child it hurts so much

  3. I was 21yrs old when my uterus was removed due to fibrosis. 13 yrs after I still find myself depressed because I always wanted to have kids so at 34 yrs old I am still finding it hard to accept and still find myself teary and asking why?? So insecure in relationships tend only want to date men who already have children and don’t want any more.

    1. Hi I feel you deeply I had my done at 34 I’m 37 now. I never thought it be possible to grieve a loss like this. Childless.
      They say it makes a women or breaks a women. I’m not sure. However I would agree that it should be last resort.

  4. So wish I had read all I could find before I had this done. Also my Dr. Should have told me the consequences but he didn’t. Also he removed both ovaries although they we’re healthy without asking or telling me first. fterwards I ask him what did he find that caused me to constantly bleed beforehand for months, even after a D&C. All he would say was my uterus was enlarged. Duh, I gave birth to 3 kids, plus was in my 40’s but I loved sex! And he took that away from me w/out telling me beforehand this would happen. So unless it’s a case of life & death DON’T DO IT!!!

  5. Hello iam 25yrs old in Nov 2013, i had my cervix and uterus removed due to cancer of the cervix. Upto date i still can’t believe that i had an op done but each time i look at the scar my eyes fill with tears. I really wanted to have another baby. My husband has been very caring throughout and seeing my 2 kids makes me wanna live longer!

    1. I can’t have children, I had a hysto, you are so blessed to have 2.

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